Here, I’m talking about those instances when we determine that we are not “feminine” enough. I know that society tends to put this thing on black women about our so called lack of femininity, but there are those true situations – at different times, and different levels for different women – when we just may have bought in to this thing, and are unaware that we are playing it out in our lives for whatever reason.
My get down is to be real about those situations when the truth is just the truth. Do we want to be self aware? Then we have to take a long hard look inward into ourselves and then make some assessments of what we see. From that place we can determine if we will continue the way we are going and be satisfied with that, or switch up and do something new and different.
BTW, I tend to fall into the speech patterns of my youth and use black colloquialisms. These words tend to clash with politically correct terminology. I mean no disrespect, ever.