Tyrese Gibson Drops Science on the Immutable Principles of Success

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Tyrese Gibson

While I was doing researching for the post I wrote on author Dr. Dennis Kimbro, I found out that singer Tyrese Gibson had collaborated with him.  Tyrese did at least one talk with Dennis Kimbro’s  “Take a Millionaire To Lunch” series.  In this series, Dr. Kimbro arranges for black millionaires to speak to the students of HBCUs and teach them how to think like a high achiever.  As I listened to Tyrese speak, I was highly impressed.  He was personable, self confident and articulate, with a commanding presence.   He imparted very important information that is too often not taught to young people, especially black people.

He spoke about his own experience – about being young and seeking the wisdom to create a better life for himself.  He told the students about the hardships he dealth with of his mother and father mired in drug and alcohol addiction, and how he decided  their negative choices would not define him.  He encouraged the students to decide who and what they would be in life and think and dream and plan to become just that.  Too often, in the chaos that surrounds young people who grow up in the hood, that very environment robs them of the peace of mind necessary to imagine a better tomorrow for themselves.

Tyrese shared with the youth that an important aspect of success is being able to handle it once they achieve it.  We have many examples of young black youth who have developed success, but don’t know how to maintain it.  They don’t have the right mentors to teach them how to protect their talent and wealth once they achieve it.  That’s why so often we see young rich people become the victims of their own lack of understanding of wealth.  As Iyanla Vanzant states, “they are millionaires with a welfare mentality”.  Their minds are blown by having so much money: they feel false pride, superiority or even guilt about having wealth and end up spending it on “Bling”.  Some want to use their wealth to build their self esteem, so they cover themselves with their wealth – gold chains, diamond grill, furs, expensive clothes and shoes.  And dont you know, there are many businessmen who get rich offering expensive and useless blinging crap to these insecure youth.  TV’s, videos, stereos, built inside super expensive cars they cant even drive without getting hated on by everybody.

As Tyrese taught, it’s up to us to change our circumstances.  We have the ability to become successful if we develop our talents, and seek to learn from the right people.  We have to seek to be excellent in whatever we choose to do, and we have to change our relationship to wealth.  When we become successful and wealthy, we can reach the next level and also properly manage our wealth.  It’s all a mind game and we can choose to be winners or losers.





7 Comments Add yours

  1. Amenta says:

    Anna Renee this s great info and very true info. IMHO, this information should also be dissemiated in the lyrics of his songs. Surely, not in everyone of his songs but in some ways. I believe this more than ever when it comes to the rappers.

    1. Anna Renee says:

      Hey brother Amenta! I’m not a Tyrese fan so I don’t know what his lyrics are specifically. I hope he’s being true to himself and God, and is growing as a black man. He appears to be from what I gathered from listening to his words.

  2. Mark says:

    I feel where Amenta is coming from but I don’t know how much more you can ask from a person who is still in the building of himself. I think that his background gives him the credibility to speak on these things without his seeming as a hypocrite.

    Could he perform different kinds of songs and send different messages? Perhaps. But I don’t find his songs to be cut from the very same cloth as many other songs and as I intimated, I think he is still growing himself. He has chosen to reach back and help those willing to ‘reach up and pull’ by his actions.

    1. Anna Renee says:

      What I respect about Tyrese is he carries himself with supreme confidence, yet is able to be humble when he admits that he was caught in some mess concerning women.

      I respect him because he said that men who chase after women need to get that out of their systems. But at some point you have to as a man, get beyond that and choose your woman and build together. Also as a man, you have to overcome the difficulties of your childhood and choose to move forward in building yourself. What Tyrese will learn is that seeking to “be my best me” is a lifelong process.

  3. brothawolf says:

    I’m curious. A couple of weeks ago, Tyrese made a comment concerning too-independent (black) women. Forgive me if this is a little off-topic.


    1. Anna Renee says:

      Hey Brothawolf! Im familiar with this. I made sure to read and listen to what Tyrese said before I posted this piece. To get a feel for myself where I believe he was coming from.

      Brother, I have to be REAL with it. I agree 100% with what Tyrese said in this piece. What I think happens is the flames are purposely being whipped so high in SOME (not all) black women’s emotions with all the negative press, that SOME (not all) of us are too angry to receive wisdom, ESPECIALLY from a black man who sees himself as a “man’s man”. Sisters are being manipulated by the Nicole Bitchies out there.

      What I believe Tyrese was trying to say is that a man doesn’t want a woman who is throwing her “independence” in his face. Why should he want to hear how much she doesn’t need him? Some (not all) of us sisters have a chokehold on this mirage called “independence”.

      What got lost in his translation is: on the one hand:
      there’s that woman who works towards and reaches her goals with positivity and determination–she should be called self-actualized rather than independent. She’s not incapacitated without a man, but she doesn’t see a man as useless.
      Tyrese didn’t mention this woman but you can extrapolate it from his first statement about the woman who relies on her looks. It stands to reason that he would then speak of the self actualized woman in comparison.

      Then there is that woman who is deeply insecure and unable to admit it, so she blames the “F’ed up” men she’s dealt with, who unfortunately has his own pain. She’s given up altogether, starts to hate black men and calls her situation “independence”, which it is not. This is the type of woman Tyrese was trying to describe. He did a BAD job of it. To me, his vibe was these women need to stop with the “independence” kick. Since Tyrese is in a learning curve, he was not able to express that these women need certain emotional support to be able to even stop with the “indepence” kick. But even more, black men need emotional support of real brothers who will speak truth about this whole issue of manhood.

      Everybody is building themselves up on black women’s pain, including certain black women’s blogs like Nicole Bitchie and the rest. What’s so sad is a lot of young women read these blogs, and come away with so much confusion and anger and hatred. These blogs throw stuff out there knowing full well that black women will seize on it. They dont care about helping black women, because they build their blog stats when they create all this pain. Thank God not all of our blogs treat us this way.

      What I would say is that we black women have to remember that black men are human beings, not gods that have control over us. No matter what they say. And vice versa. The only reason a sister stays mad at a man who has hurt her is she believes he has control over her. He doesn’t. If I break my arm, that thing hurts like hell, but I get a cast and allow it to heal. I don’t remain angry at having had a broken arm. Because I know it will heal and I’ll go on.

      1. brothawolf says:

        I never thought of it that way. Thanks for the response.

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